U of R Psychology Professor Fred Rabinowitz encourages communication when making the tough decisions about whether or not to gather with family/friends for the holidays.
"Let each person share their concerns before making any decisions. Talk about what would feel like the right level of interaction, including what your fears are about contact."
"Once everyone shares (via video platform), come up with a plan that allows each person to feel safe. Stress that if it feels uncomfortable to have visitors, it is out of love and desire for everyone’s health that these decisions are being made, not rejection. Compromises around wearing masks, physical distancing, and even making it a Zoom celebration can be considered to counteract those who are more willing to take chances with contact. For those who might feel like this is their last chance at contact, the family might decide to allow for closer contact with informed acknowledgment of the risks."